"And do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live. Remember, he has identified you as his own, guaranteeing you will be saved on the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you."Ephesians 4:30-32 NLT
In Ephesians 4:30, scripture cautions us to not cause sorrow to the Holy Spirit by the way we live our lives because He has identified us as His own; guaranteeing we are sealed for the day of redemption. King James version actually uses the word "grieve"; it is an unfortunate thing to grieve the Spirit of God. We see throughout biblical history how the children of Israel "pained"/brought sorrow to God through continuous disobedience. They committed all kinds of sin, and in today's world, we are doing the same thing and more.
How did Apostle say we were grieving the Holy Spirit? You do not have to go too far to see how and what we are doing to bring sorrow to the heart of God. It is all listed in our text; Ephesians 4:31-32 and you can find more sinful acts mentioned in Galatians 5:19-21. You begin wondering: what makes us different from unbelievers?
My beloved sisters, there are many of us out there holding onto the past or present hurts, and it is causing physical, emotional and spiritual damages in our lives. Whether you want to believe it or not, harboring bitterness and unforgiveness is dangerous to your personal life and your relationship with Jesus Christ. It's not worth losing your sanity over and most importantly losing heaven. Don't wait until the person who hurt you come asking for forgiveness because it may never happen or if they do occur, it might be ungenuine. Choose today to let go and let GOD. Some 16 years ago, I was deeply hurt by someone very close to me, and it took the power of the Holy Spirit for me to let go. I was consumed with anger and bitterness; it affected my job, my day to day living until one day the LORD used Joyce Meyer's message on forgiveness to deliver me. I guess at that point God was saying to me enough is enough! I broke down right there and then, seeking the Lord for mercy. At that moment, I decided to let go and instantly, I began to feel the peace of God & within a few weeks I began to experience open doors in my life. It was delightful to finally meet Joyce Meyer in person years later to just appreciate God for her life and ministry.
When you harbor unforgiveness in your life, it closes the door to God's work in your life, and you individually have yourself to blame. Choosing to let go of the bitterness, the anger and taking that bold step to forgive the one who has hurt you does not diminish who you are or make you a fool. It does not mean you will forget, but what you now see is that anytime you bring up the incident, you are not talking about it with anger or bitterness, but as part of your life's journey in which whomever you are sharing your story with, will be encouraged by how you overcame.
Forgiving and letting go of the bitterness is telling yourself the following:
⦁ I am not going to make anything or anyone cause me to miss heaven.
⦁ I am forgiving because I want to be free from pain.
⦁ I am forgiving because I want to enjoy my relationship with the Lord Jesus.
⦁ I am forgiving because I do not want to hinder God's plan and purpose for my life.
God is the ultimate judge; beloveds let Him take up your case for you, allow Him to fight your battles; the only role you should perform in the matter is to release that individual (s) from your heart and trust God to take control.
Beloved it is time to start living a life that pleases God. Its time to move past the hurts, let go and allow God to complete the healing process in your life. It is time to be merciful because God commands us to be (Luke 6:36). It is easy to dwell in that bitterness and anger, but for how long? Is it worth losing your soul over? Is it worth losing your health and peace over? NO, it is not! The Lord God has called us to be merciful; forgiving others as He has forgiven us (Matthew 6:14-15). If you are struggling with unforgiveness and bitterness today, I want you to trust God and allow Him to bring the healing and deliverance that you need to be set free; living the best life, He intended for you.